People pleasing (“fawning”) is a (overlooked) trauma response
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People pleasing (“fawning”) is a (overlooked) trauma response

I’ve been digging deeper into the origins and consequences of trauma and how it impacts our nervous system lately, so I want to share what I’ve discovered so far.  What is trauma? Trauma is not just about the things that happened to us that should not have happened. It also includes what DIDN’T happen to…

Why I Yoga
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Why I Yoga

A couple of days ago, I sat down on my mat and got really still. Like more still than my normal meditations (that are already deep, believe me). I was asking myself this question over and over again: “Nila, what does Yoga mean to you?“ And here’s what came out of the silent.. What I’ve…

What I wish I knew when starting my healing journey
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What I wish I knew when starting my healing journey

I believe, one of the most important lessons I had to learn the hard way is: YOU CAN’T POUR FROM AN EMPTY CUP!⠀⠀You’ve probably heard about this analogy: Before an airplane takes off, the flight attendants deliver advice on what to do in an emergency situation. They explain that if the oxygen masks drop down,…