Life is not about finding yourself. It’s about CREATING yourself.
In the past, I was constantly trying to discover who I am and what life really means to me. The truth is that we are all capable to learn from our challenges and to evolve into the person we inspire to be. If there is one advice I learned on my journey from the law of attraction that I can give you after years of trying to figure out what my true purpose is and to find an answer for the question: “WHO AM I?” it is this: Throw out the recipe book, the paint-by-numbers kit, and anything anyone ever told you about who or what you should be—and start to chart your own course!
It’s not easy – and it’s not comfortable.
The truth is: We are trained from birth to make safe, reliable choices all the time. In school, teachers encourage us to conform to the norm and not to color outside the lines; in business, colleagues confront us with “blueprints” and case studies; the media shows us how we should dress, where to vacation, and who we should emulate and admire. We are basically trained to live to learn but what if we would start to learn to live instead?
Remember those days of your childhood, when you just did whatever your tiny body felt like doing? Creating a sand-castle on the beach, collecting leaves in the forrest or dressing up as a fairy just for fun? When we were kids we intuitively leaned in the direction of creation. Making mud pies, finger painting and exploring was a lot more satisfying than playing with a toy, wasn’t it? We were charting our own courses, creating something new, and finding out more about ourselves every day. In fact, kids can teach us a lot about the creative process.
Creating yourself.
It’s the uncharted experiences, not the guided tours, which truly help us “create” ourselves. When we start to listen to the inner nudge to do something different and go in a way that intuition leads us—follow our dreams and desires rather than step into someone else’s footsteps—those are the moments that define who we are and give us insight into how we can participate in the world around us. We shouldn’t lose sight of that!
So my advice for you is instead of trying to “find yourself” by following what others have done, dust off one of the dreams you’ve kept locked away – one that makes your heart sing with anticipation – and just for fun, plot out an action plan to make it happen.
For me following my intuition lead me to attend a Yoga teacher training in Bali and traveling on my own for 6 months after graduating with a MSc degree in Psychology. I still work at an office in Marketing and appreciate what I do for a living. But with the new habits (including my daily yoga practice and home-made nutritious meals), I have created a life that is more fulfilling, more appreciating and happier than ever before.
“Dreaming is an act of creation, and it’s the wellspring of innovation.”
So don’t stifle your inner creator; feed it, and open yourself to new possibilities. I am a living example that change is possible!
YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR OWN REALITY!
When I began my recovery journey, I knew the feeling of finding freedom was just too good a feeling to keep for myself.
I wanted every sufferer to have that moment when they stop and think, “I thought recovery was real, I knew it existed, I knew it was possible, but I never thought that I would experience it”. But you CAN, if you chose to take the step out of your comfort zone.
That’s because we are always more capable of seeing the strength in others before ourselves. That’s what keeps me going.
We are all so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for.
I know that your wound is probably not your fault. But your healing is your responsibility. Healing comes from taking responsibility: to realize that it is you – and no one else – that creates your thoughts, your feelings, your actions, and ultimately your reality. ✨
People know your name, not your story. They’ve heard what you’ve done, but not what you’ve been through. So take their opinions of you with a grain of salt. In the end, it’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts. Sometimes you have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else.
With this in mind, you can learn more from your own experiences and make the choices that help create the person you want to be, and not let your surroundings make the decision for you.
Creating your GOOD LIFE takes daily practice!
Truth is, living a good life a always a moving target. There is no single day when you get to say: “I’ve finally made it; now I can relax and don’t do anything any more.”
There is no “there” there.
A good life is not a place at which you arrive some day. It is a lens through which you see and create the world around you. Your inner wold reflects your outer world.
One of my all time inspirational human being Viktor Frankl says: “..between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
And in this growth and freedom lies the GOOD LIFE that we can choose to live. The only question that remains is: Will you exercise this power and choose to create the life of your dreams?
I want to be a source for others. To show you that change is possible. In the end it is and will always be About the Good Life that we all deserve to live and create!
Thank you for reading.
Xx, Nila
